FinTrU host Marriage Equality Talk
By Robert Cleland
Friday 3 August 2018
On Friday 3 August some very special guests took to the FinTrU stage to speak about Marriage Equality in Northern Ireland and its importance to not only our staff but the general public as well.
Guest speakers included Brendan and Victor from Don't Tell The Bride and Lady Portia Di' Monte a prominent drag personality and rights activist, also in attendance was Annette Whelan who is Chair of 'Working With Pride', an LGBTQ+ cross business network that we work closely with for LGBTQ+ events and initiatives.
The talk consisted of personal views given by Brendan and Victor having each grown up in very different circumstances, what it was like for Victor to have to leave his family and Mexico to find acceptance and to find somewhere he felt he belonged. He found Southern Ireland and in particular found his true love Brendan, now his husband. He explained how difficult it was to grow up in a society and family that shunned and demonised homosexuality to the point that he felt he could never truly be himself and that his family would never truly accept him for who he is; that by having a lack of understanding can result in losing contact with family and this shouldn't be the case. Brendan gave another personal view point having grown up in the South of Ireland and having pushed for marriage equality and won, what it was like growing up there prior to the decision and what it's like now. This gave our staff real world insight into what it's like growing up LGBTQ+ and why it's important that equality is achieved here.
We also had a more broad view point given by Marcus (Lady Portia Di' Monte) with a more fact based approach highlighting the key components of what is stopping the progression for Marriage Equality in Northern Ireland. He also highlighted personal experiences from his family regarding expectations and the feeling of not being accepted as yourself. By putting pressure onto loved ones to conform to act a certain way and to be a certain way can ultimately in some cases lead to losing them forever and that this should never be the case.
Our CEO Darragh McCarthy also spoke on FinTrU's stance on the issue and full support for Marriage Equality in Northern Ireland, we believe that everyone is equal and should be treated as such.